Never Again
I am walking toward the tall wall of seemingly endless rows of barbed wire. I see each step of mine, the foot of a child, exposed, frail and swollen. My fingers graze the fence as I begin a frantic climb. Advancing upward, my hands are shaking as each new grasp cuts abrasions into my skin, widening and deepening with each fresh slice. My head gets light, and blood drips from my palms as I clamp down to muffle screams of pain. I hear shouting in the direction of the guard tower, followed by a gunshot. Then, another. My body freezes, my muscles are shocked. As I fall, everything turns black. Abruptly, I wake up. This is always where I wake up.
Today is International Holocaust Remembrance Day, memorialized as such by the United Nations General Assembly in 2005, approximately 24 years after I was born. Before 2005, I remembered the Holocaust in the ways many other Jews of my generation have; from recurring childhood dreams, to the shaking tattooed arms of elders, and comprehensive Hebrew school history lessons. Genocide was nothing one forgot — it was in your bones, in your body, and in your blood.
Toxic diet culture
The type 2 diabetes drug, Ozempic, has become a household name for weight loss because of social media. Here's what you should know about this dangerous trend and example of toxic diet culture.
Social media trends come and go, and sadly, so do weight loss trends. Allied Market Research valued weight loss sales in 2019 at $192.2 billion, with projections set to reach $295.3 billion by 2027. The diabetic medication Ozempic, developed for the treatment of type 2 diabetes, is currently making headway in the weight loss category with an average retail price of over a $1,000 a month for the weekly injection.
Pregnant and nursing employees
Public policy and laws in the United States have not historically supported pregnant people or people who have recently given birth. Pregnant workers have never had the guarantee to be able to continue to earn income and have a healthy and safe pregnancy at the same time. This changed with the 117th Congress this past December 22, 2022 when the most racially and ethnically diverse Congressional body in history, a body made up of just over 25% of women with an additional 11 openly LGBTQIA+ members, made more political history.
Come June 2023, employers will now be required to grant reasonable accommodations for pregnant workers under the bipartisan Pregnant Workers Fairness (PWFA) and Providing Urgent Maternal Protections Acts (PUMP). Both acts were passed in the flurry of amendments to the $1.7 trillion omnibus bill at the end of last year, and are a huge victory for pregnant workers and families.
Jellyfish Parenting
Jellyfish parenting is back in according to social media trends and is battling for top parenting style next to tiger and dolphin parents. So, what is a jellyfish parent?
Writer Emma Brockes calls the style "boneless, diaphanous and endlessly flexible." Kristene Geering, director of education at Parent Lab, describes it as "practicing the art of really tuning into your kid." The Internet warned me that jellyfish parenting is "too permissive" and can lead your confused children into nefarious activity and promiscuity. That's quite the range! So what does it mean to be a jellyfish parent?
No Thanksgiving
There are plenty of educators who share how to ethically enjoy a Thanksgiving meal with your family by including a "healthy dose" of history—deconstructing colonization and learning about Indigenous communities. For a few short years, this made sense for my family. Novembers were filled with Friendsgivings focused on gratitude, community service, and good company.
But as time progressed and I continued to read more Indigenous authors and historians and engage with artists' work, my unlearning of American history as it was taught to me evolved. It evolved so much that I reached a crossroads: I had to decide if I could continue with the motions of a Thanksgiving, or if it was time to let it go. My family decided we had to change. It was time to opt out.
Social media + mental health
For the first 3 years of my son's life, I lived in a rural area where community was hard to come by. Like many, I sought out connection with other new moms and parents online, from mom groups to focused mom pages that featured writer moms, artist moms ,and moms who work. Mothers filled pages across screens with acronyms I did not know yet: AI, BD, NIP—all the letters that made me thankful Google existed. They shared stories, they shared problems, and, at times, openly shared judgment.
In my early years of being a first-time parent and a new mom, I realized something else was happening to my mental health and stress levels from certain online spaces. I was seeing and comparing myself, my child, our experience and our lives to other people. I had found myself in toxic online spaces.
Peppa Pig
A 2019 petition "Demand a same-sex parent family on Peppa Pig" has finally come to fruition, as this week in Britain the episode "Families" aired the first "two Mummy" household on Peppa Pig. This is a first for the popular children's TV show that for over 18 years, 6 series and 250 episodes has largely centered around Peppa Pig's four-person, heteronormative family.
Sex After 40
My grandmother looked me in the eyes and said, "There is no sex after 40." I was young enough that I had not experienced my first kiss yet, let alone sex, but old enough that the statement registered as grave and sad. Over the years, as I steadily climbed toward 40, I often thought back to this moment. How many women have closed the sex chapter of their life by middle age? Perhaps for many of a certain generation, my grandmother's comment might have been true.
Parental Bigotry
As parents, we want our children to have healthy and happy friendships. We spend so much time driving around to drop off and pick up, coordinating countless playdates, and we even hang out with other adult parents (that sometimes we don't even like) in order to facilitate our children's friendships. We support our children through disagreements, hurt feelings and all the issues that come from hard-to-grasp concepts such as sharing and jealousy. We try to do it all. But sometimes people's biases get in the way.
Best Advice for Grandma
Grandma gets an important lesson on how to love kids for exactly who they are and how they want to express themselves.
Queer Youth Joy Is a Radical Act
In a world of mixed messages ranging from peer acceptance to political hate, LGBTQIA+ youth are finding ways to celebrate who they are.
Pride 2022 starts as ongoing anti-LGBTQIA+ legislation continues across states, yet queer resilience, as always, rages on no matter the time of year. In Florida, Zander Moricz, the first openly gay class president at his Sarasota high school, is the youngest public plaintiff in a federal lawsuit against the state of Florida to strike down the Don't Say Gay Bill. "All of me is threatened by this legislation," Moricz testified at the state senate
The Problem with B Corp ‘Conscious Capitalism’
You may have seen the letter “B” within a circle on the packaging of brands such as Horizon Organic, Silk, or Ben & Jerry’s. You’ve noticed this logo on websites ranging from arts and entertainment company Meow Wolf to the beloved outdoor clothing and gear company Patagonia. The symbol represents that the company is a certified B Corp, or a for-profit corporation certified as such by the nonprofit B Lab. You reach for these products and pay for these services because you want to support a social mission, not destroy the environment, and think workers should be taken care of. You believe that we need to be doing business better.
Inclusive Parenting
Parents seeking out information and ways to teach their children (or hoping to learn right along with them) about inclusion, sex, and identity, can learn a lot from Emily Roach. Emily Roach (she/her) is a writer, influencer, and parent and dives into sex positive parenting in bite-sized and easy-to-understand videos. When exploring sex, gender, and inclusion, Roach brings the power of intentional and inclusive language into her worldview-building work.
In a recent video, Roach answers this question—among many others on her TikTok page: What is casual inclusivity and how easy is it to do?
Books Unbanned
Librarians, guardians of the people's freedom to read, have come to the rescue in response to the rise of censorship via book challenges across the country. The Brooklyn Public Library recently announced Books Unbanned, their new program focused on combating censorship and suppression. Through Books Unbanned, anyone in the United States between the ages of 13 and 21 can apply for a free Brooklyn Public Library (BPL) eCard. The BPL database will give teens access to 350,000 ebooks and 200,000 audiobooks, along with numerous online databases.
Jamie Lee Curtis Is Parenting Goals
Jamie Lee Curtis levels up with new parenting goals for the rest of us as she prepares to officiate her daughter Ruby Mae's cosplay wedding this May. This will be her second (and last) daughter to wed at home; Curtis married her daughter Annie in their home backyard three years ago. Curtis and husband Christopher Guest have planned a beautiful picnic to set off the intimate festivities celebrating Ruby Mae and partner Cynthia. One could only dream of an invite.
Zoombombing
When the world shifted online at the start of the pandemic in March 2020, millions of Americans were introduced to Zoom— and to "Zoombombing." Uninvited internet trolls slid into all kinds of public Zoom events, taking over the screen-share function and subjecting users to porn and racial slurs.
Zoom fought back, encouraging users to take their group meetings private and adding obstacles like authentication for users to join, passcodes for access, and a waiting room. (In August, the company settled for $85 million in a class-action suit that claimed it didn't do enough to prevent Zoombombing. As part of the settlement, Zoom agreed to further increase security measures.)
Get Dirty While You Get Clean
Bathtubs are an essential part of many self-care routines, helping people regulate sleep, elevate mood levels and release anxiety. Bathtubs can also help one discover an even greater release.
Oakland-based sex and pleasure educator Tuck Malloy remembered their own bodily awakening as a tween experiencing the powerful force of the faucet: “It was this pivotal moment for me that you can use tools to create really amazing sensations.” Their experience playing in the water led them to feel safe and eager to experiment with vibrators as a teen.
'Don't Say Gay' Bill
Kate McKinnon joined Colin Jost on Weekend Update to comment on Florida's 'Don't Say Gay' Bill, HB1557, as it passed its final state Senate committee last week.
McKinnon sets up the segment with blissful ignorance, "I heard about this law, and I think it's amazing!" She spins to her middle school experience and the impact of hearing "that's so gay" or "ew, you're gay," exclaiming how wonderful it is that Ron Desantis has taken a stand to say "No, you cannot say gay in school anymore."
Making Math Fabulous
For many of us parents, the pandemic forced us to face our children's relationships with math by addressing our own. From collective Google searching of "what in the hell is common core" to seeking out ways to make math fun, we have had to ask, "Is math just a drag?"
Now, it really is. Meet Kyne, the world-class drag queen math communicator. Kyne (the creation of Kyne Santos) began her drag career while studying Mathematics at the University of Waterloo, completing her major in Mathematical Finance, all while appearing on the wildly popular Canada's Drag Race. The idea to finally bridge her two loves of math and drag came to her when the global pandemic swept us all into many hours stuck in our homes.
Trans People Get Abortions, Too
"There's a natural similarity between reproductive rights and transgender rights," said Mercedes Sanchez, director of development and community education at Cedar River Clinics in Washington State. "It's all about autonomy, bodily autonomy, and being able to make the choices for ourselves." Sanchez sees the fight for reproductive rights and transgender rights as intertwined. And, in fact, they are.
It is essential for healthcare providers to be aware of intersections of oppressions from race, socioeconomic status, sex assigned at birth and current gender status, so patients can potentially feel safe and included in these spaces. By stating that abortion services are cis people's health concern are excluding trans and nonbinary people's experience.